Hi! I’m Ranier Maningding 
Few things in my life have been as consistent as my passion for writing. It’s been about a year since I started this wordpress account but believe it or not, I’ve actually been relationship blogging since I was 15. Yes, 15, aka freshman year in High School. I guess I’ve always had an eye (ear? brain? heart?) for this topic.
Random Facts about Me:
- 23 years old (Hooray for Aries babies!)
- I don’t smoke nor do I drink
- I’m an avid photographer who loves shooting peel apart film, 35mm and the occasional digital.
- I listen to a lot of music but my current favorites are: 1.) Sam Cooke 2.) Jamie Cullum 3.) Craig David
- I’m not a fan of reading but I try to stay up-to-date with economics, politics and communication based podcasts
- I have a 3 year old dog named Oso who I love with all my heart
- I’m Filipino, 1/16th Chinese, and 1/16th Spanish (but everyone thinks I look either Vietnamese or Chinese)
- My first girlfriend was in 6th grade and she was Mexican
- I’m a college student majoring in Communication Studies at San Francisco State University
Oh, and one more thing…
- I’m madly in love with my woman of 2 years. She’s the kind of woman that gives money to the Salvation Army guy outside Whole Foods, she’s a chemical engineering major so she studies hard (and works out harder,) she can rock a 1950′s style dress like no one I know with curves no one else has, when I cradle her radiant face in my hands her eyes pull me in like an anchor and when she kisses my neck I can feel the hairs around my body stand with excitement.
YES, I AM HAPPILY TAKEN!
It’s a promise ring, but we both like to think of it as an early engagement ring
Ranier, how can you write about real life situations that are current if you use your real name here? Do none of your girlfriends google you?
This has been a problem that I’ve thought about over and over and over again.
On one hand, I would like my blog to be hidden from the girls that I write about. If I write a blog about girl “x”, I would prefer it if she didn’t know about this blog.
However, I realized that I’ve already put so much of my personal life on the line that it really doesn’t matter anymore. This is my public journal. Though I do care about my readers, I first and foremost write for myself – I need a place to vent out my thoughts and creativity.
So in the end, I chose to sacrifice my privacy for the sake of being able to express myself. I am well aware that any girl can google “Ranier” and EASILY find me online (I mean really, who else do you know named Ranier?) and manage to find this blog.
If they read it, they do. At least I know I’m not hiding
I’m sorry, how do you pronounce Ranier?
hmmm I get your point but do you at least change their names?
Sam
I ALWAYS change their names. I would NEVER use a girls real name, unless I were actually dating her (as in, she being my official girlfriend/fiancee/wife)
ok
I just started reading your blog but I must say, you sir, are awesome! haha I can’t believe a lot of your post had me bursting out laughing
Actually I can, it was really funny but very insightful
~Gabby
haha aww thanks Gabby! I’m incredibly flattered that I actually made you laugh
<3
hello,I just found your blog and love it…. I am a black woman from europe and always felt attracted to asian men and now that I discovered the boyband Bigbang even worse now I must visit Korea the problem is that i might want to stay there forever =D
I enjoy your articles. Great to hear an Asian man speak out!
I love Asian men!
Laura:)
http://amwflove.wordpress.com/
ttp://www.youtube.com/user/Ksister920
Wow. Your site is amazing.
You’re a clown.
I’m glad you think so
Don’t hate… Instead, please appreciate.
Just stumbled upon your blog. I REALLY like it! It’s fresh, it’s fun, it’s straightforward… I’m really impressed. I find the topic of interracial dating to be very very interesting; it’s a relatively recent ‘phenomenon’ so it’s the right time to start talking about it. So far i’ve mostly read blogs about white girls dating asian guys but not the opposite so it’s really interesting (and amusing, i must say) to read a guy’s point of view.
However unfortunately there is still very little on interracial dating scene IN ASIA. See, you’re American and you’re describing the situation from the perspective of a relatively multicultural society. Here in Europe it’s fairly different, it’s still very rare to see a caucasian girl/asian guy going out together. Why? No idea, but it seems that both sides are reluctant to date outside their race. And having lived in Asia (Beijing) I have to say that in China the interracial dating scene is still quite immature… It’s a pity i guess, but there’s time, we’ll see what happens
I write toooooo much as usal, forgive me! Keep writing, you’re doing a great job!
Ari
P.S. I love Frida Giannini too! She’s awesome!!
I’ve been reading a couple of your posts. You’re great, dude !
And hell yeah.. you’re right .. Asian guys are awesome! Keep up ! I will follow you.
Hey!
Sorry for posting this here, but could you tell what is the name of that movie where you wrote: “If my calculations are correct, smoking this cigarette while wearing this suit will guarantee that you will fall in love with me!”
I’ve seen it once, but i wanted to see it again and can’t remember the name of he movie.
Thanks
Hi, there!
I came upon one of your posts today on facebook (of all places, lol) due to someone posting a link to it as an interesting topic to look at. I read it and was enlightened by a lot of the things said in it. It definitely put things into perspective and helped me understand a lot about Asian culture, plus it was HILARIOUS!! Definitely planning on staying tuned to your blog ^__^
p.s.- The 60′s fashion photo on your homepage is incredible! As a fashion student, I’m thoroughly impressed! Ok, that’s all for now before I get too talky. (I’m a pretty wordy person lol)
-Danny =)
Thanks Danny! Relax, curl up in bed, and enjoy a few blog posts or two
<3 Ranier
your blog is awesome! Worth being awake at 3 in the morning
Hi Falco. Found your page Via tumblr yesterday and I must say you definitely have a great sense of humor which makes your blog a great read. I added you to my blogroll( hope you don’t mind, and if you do…too bad
Love your imagery as well.
And thanks for liking my work on FB
this is draco aka Jan
Have a wondy day
Hey Falco:
I stumbled across your website and found it very interesting specifically your opinions on AMBW…I have to say I found validity in some of your points and validity in some of your critics points also. But there is no right or wrong answer…people are people and we all have opinions!! LOL
As a BW who has dated outside and within my race…from my own experience I can say this men are men!! Penis is penis!! Either you make me laugh, I find you attractive, you have something intelligent to say or you don’t…it really is that simple to me. Idk why people approach it from any other angle…geez it’s dating people not some social experiment. Either a dude gets you hot or not!! LOL Obviously there’s more to it than that but you catch my drift…
Anyways I just wanted to leave you a note, I like your style and sense of humor…another opinion to add to the rest I guess
I never expected to find a blog like this, it’s refreshing : ) looking forward to more of your updates!
I came across your blog and it’s very interesting. So how is your love life going anyway? As an Asian man the dating scene a little different because of many cultural differences and stereotypes. Hope it’s all working out well for you,
Pingback: Express My Views #5: Response to Interracial Dating Rant (AM/BW) | Candy Nine
Wow! My sis and I have been sitting here reading your blog for about two hours now! Very interesting and I appreciate the work you do. Wish I knew about this blog earlier! Can’t wait for your updates.
hey Ranier! just checked out your blog! really liking the persona stories. thought you’d find this clip interesting! http://youtu.be/vFv2HX8bdcw
hai whould like know me
Hi! I’ve been reading a couple of blogs on interracial dating, esp. on the Asian Man-White Woman topic but all of them were written by women (white or black) dating Asian guys. So it’s really refreshing to read about the other side. haven’t read all of your posts yet, but it does seem like you don’t have problems dating
While all the blogs I read before say that most Asian guys have issues trying to date non-Asian women, especially because of shyness and cultural differences. Maybe it’s not true for American-born/raised Asian guys. Do you have any knowledge or insight about this? Namely that Asian guys are just too shy to go up to a non-Asian girl and ask her out on a date.
I LOVE THIS!<3
Hello Ranier!
I really like your blog and your attitude!
u’re a real young gentleman:)
I found ur blog (a while ago) because u took a picture of my design at Arts of Fashion in SF.
So yeah, thanks a lot, good shoot!
http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5170/5263647727_cc5914f405_b.jpg
Best,
Patricia. (Brazil)
Super awesome blog!!!
PINOY PRIDE!!! ^~^
(Filipina + white mix male)
I picture this might be various upon the written content? however I still believe that it usually is suitable for just about any form of matter subject matter, as a result of it could continuously be gratifying to decide a heat and pleasant face or perhaps hear a voice while preliminary landing.
Love, really like, Enjoy this weblog! You say every little thing that Im thinking and a lot more. Youve undoubtedly shed light on a subject that not numerous people can argue with. Youre so great at obtaining what you would like to say on the market in a way thats intelligent and entertaining. Im really impressed, man. Truly impressed.
Your site is awesome! Wow this is definitely unique. Keep it up…
ur so cute, but why don’t asian guys think like u do. i wish more asian guys would date/marry more latinas and black chicks, then we wouldn’t have to complain about white chicks taking them.
Hello lovelies! Okay so being assisted by my best friend/sis, I am making an AMBW vlog to add my two cents and to get people’s views on the AMBW. I have questions for you all and it would be a great help if you gave me your answers in a video answer if possible (i want to compose all videos into one) and if not, please answer in the comment box)
Without further delay:
1) What is your ethnicity? 2) Do you know what AMBW means? a.) If so, how do you feel about it? 3) Have you ever dated a black woman/Asian man? a.) Seriously or just for experiment? 4) Would you ever consider dating a black woman/ Asian man? 5) What do you think of when you hear the term “black woman” or “Asian man”? 6) What would be the cultural barriers or clashes? 7) Would there be any problems if your family knew you dated a black woman/ Asian man? 8) Any extra comments?
May you email your video response to TeaYanaW@gmail.com
THANK YOU~~ ^^
You also make me laugh
so I have a question that I’ve been wondering about for a day or so. Do Koreans really like the cutesy things that girls do like making a heart with their hands or stuff related to that?sometimes I start to thing that tv is just making them seem like that.my friend grace is Korean and she told me that they like cute stuff like that but I can’t always believe her so yeah. Just wondering! ~Lia
They definitely do- both guys and girls. I’m married to a Korean guy and spent several years dating Korean guys before marrying my husband. Being cute like that is completely allowed whereas if I’d ever done those type of things with previous Australian boyfriends they would tell me I’m being annoying.
It varies from person to person but in general being very cutesy is completely normal. I’ve gotten quite used to it but years ago that would have made me so embarrassed. But now if I’m saying goodbye to my husband it feels natural to make a heart with my hands and that type of thing. I’ve started blogging about my experiences actually and I draw crappy comics about being married to a Korean man and experiences with Korean culture. http://www.mykoreanhusband.com
Sorry, not meaning to butt in here- Ranier has an excellent blog but just thought you might like to hear from someone with experiences with Korean guys.
I am so loving your site!! It is thoughtful yet funny and relate-able. Where was photo taken in SF (nice!)? Curious, as I am in SF.
how can I contact you for advice on an asian guy? I’m English
If all Asians are different, then the question “What are they like?” is pretty irrelevant, right?
First off, I really like your blog and consider it to be very informative even if it is just from your experiences. I see your blog as fresh, funny, and open-minded. I enjoy reading what you have to say and what the readers have to say. I also like to read Ask a Korean which also has some good answers to my questions (he is blunt, funny, and harsh at the same time). Then again the almighty google will procure answers to my questions also. Well the point of all that was of course to learn more about my boyfriend’s Korean culture and because he refuse to even let me know anything about it (he is first generation in America and we are two years going strong). Anyways…I have read good amount of your blog and I have several thoughts in my heads that I can’t leave alone. Honestly, I feel kind of off center about the whole Caucasian ruling the media (I’m not saying it’s not true). It seems to be a staple in your blog and in reader’s comments. Believe me when I say I know it is true with a capital T, but I also have to say that the media also puts out ideals of perfection that not even white girls can have. It may be ruled by white images, but those images can’t be held by white females. As a little girl all I wanted was to have perfect straight hair and blue eyes like my mother, but instead I got my dad’s super curly hair, his hazel eyes, and his light olive complexion (of course I get lighter or darker depending on how much sun I get). Growing up little kids would tease me for my unruly hair and when I got older guys would tell me I look prettier when I straighten me hair. I’m for the most part white…I’m German, Polish, French, Irish, Scottish, Sioux (Native American), and black (my family heritage is a long story that confuses people a lot of times). What I’m trying to say is the image of a perfect girl is thin, pretty, blue or green eyes, straight hair, and a height smaller then a guy’s average height. I’m white and I don’t fit most of those things and a lot of girls don’t. On the other hand a lot of white girls hate the way they look. I mean all of my white female friends HATE being white. They want dark skin, a nice figure, and to say they aren’t just a cracker. Anyways I’m sorry for making this so long and tedious. Can I have a penny for your thoughts? Ohh..and I feel you on the, “way is she with him” question. I hear it a good amount from my friends, strangers, co-workers and even his friends. Why are you with him…you know you can do better right? I would say: what is wrong with him? Their reply is: He isn’t even a hot Korean or interesting. My reply: We love each other and he will be there for me unlike your love interest (how true that is). For the most part I laugh it off and say love is blind. Ok I’m done for sure now.
You’re a typical Filipino idiot who doesn’t shit and make a fool of your self pretending that you do.
You’re amazing, I mean your stuff is really funny and informative. I enjoy every minute of your blog
!
Pingback: Express My Views #5: Response to Interracial Dating Rant (AM/BW) | NyNyOnline
I love Asian guys,but do not really know how to speak to them , thank you for the information.
First I love you’re blog. I am a 54 year old mother of 5 and have never done this before. I am Irish and Native American my husband is black. I was very lucky that my parents didn”t teach me to care about the color of someones skin but what was in their heart. My oldest son’s wife is black,the son below him has a wife that is fillipino,my oldest daughter’s husband is from Mexico and my youngest son’s other half is white. My youngest daughter is in college and has always been attracted to asians. She took japanese in high school on line from BYU.Our family has only been enriched thru our extended family. I looked on line because i was concerned because all you ever hear is that asians only date asians and i know from some of my friends who are mixed asian/american they they had acceptance problems. My children are very worldly because my husband and myself were in the us military. and we raised them to cherish and learn from other cultures. Some of the people who responded to your question sadden me because I would have thought that our worlds people would have become more enlighten in the @!st century.Traveling around the world has taught me that people are the same, cultures may differ but we hope,love and bleed the same. A broken heart in America is the same as in Korea,Spain as in Africa.I will not worry about my daughter finding a person to really love because I know that everyone has their own destiny. I only hope he will not over look her because of the color of her skin or the shape of her eyes.
I like your blog, I love Asian men, though I’m scared of rejection, mostly my own self esteem but this blog is very helpful thank
Did you write your personal details about 20 years ago??? or are you literally only 20?? Dude… I didn’t get all this shit together until fairly recent years. I’m the white girl half of a white/Asian marriage. My husband is Balinese (Indonesia)… Fresh off the boat. He’s the first Asian guy I’ve dated… Not really on purpose. Just never really thought about it. I’ve seen sexy Asians, and I’ve always thought Asian women were BEAUTIFUL. And always look 48,000 years younger than they are. So… A little jealous there. I guess I sort of assumed Asian dudes weren’t generally interested in white women… Or, well, white women that look like me anyway haha. I’m pretty, and VERY pale white, and I’m a big girl. I’ve never been approached by an eastern guy, so I assumed I was not their general cup of tea.
We live in West, TX (yes, it’s a city… not a direction. oh wait… you might have seen it all exploded on the news recently.) I met him at his place of business… He’s a hibachi chef at a Japanese steakhouse. I remember the first time we made eye contact, I was like, woooooo lawdy… and felt like i might break out in hives or vomit from sheer nerves. I do not go ga-ga over men. But I was going out of my mind over this one. Which was stupid since I didn’t even know his name. needless to say, i became a regular. Eventually, he sent me a friend request on fb. I don’t even know how he knew my name. we chatted forever and ever… went on a little date for drinks. I assumed I would make him my new FWB, so I proceeded to get W A S T E D in order to build up some courage to bust a move. After all, he wouldn’t even be there if he wasn’t interested, RIGHT??? I figured we’d go back to his place and have some Mister Nasty Time… well, he shot me down. we kissed. and he would NOT let me in his pants. locked down. boom. “thanks for the great time.” he said, and then went inside. I had never felt so rejected. Was so embarrassed and I was grieving over the fact that I wouldn’t be able to eat at that amazing restaurant anymore. And I also realized I needed to reel in the slutbag that I morphed into. geez what was wrong with me?!?! (yes, i grew up with a really good father. no daddy issues here.)
Turns out he was being a gentleman. IMAGINE! 1 year later… we were married. He’s amazing. His family and friends are amazing. He doesn’t treat my daughter like a stepchild. and he’s dad to her. And, hey, now I have a reason to VACATION IN BALI, baby! ;-D
I don’t know why it works… we have nothing in common. i’m a christian… he’s not. I LOVE shooting big guns. He’s a bit horrified by them. …and just myriad other things. But he comes from a very beautiful, kind, and warm culture. We have the same priorities and core values. FAMILY. Being responsible and paying the bills, charity work, etc.
(was totally gonna include a pic of our happy fam, but I don’t know how. But, trust me. We’re hawt. hahaha jk. no, but really. aaaah i’m just being serious. stop it!)
Have yourself a blessed day!
-Erin
Hello!
I am also in a multirracial relationship, I am Spanish with Cuban ancestry from my dad´s side and my life partner is from Shandong, China.
I enjoyed reading your thoughts!
Laura
Omg you have the best blog i have seen as of yet!! It’s so straightforward cutting right to the point with lots of humor, inspiring stories, and a lesson, fact, or opinion thrown in for awesome measures. I was talking with my love and boyfriend of 2 years, Tairuki, when we wondered if there were other people like us, since in my part of the southern U.S. it’s not common. He’s completely Japanese and well i’m black and mixed with ALOT of things. We found you and laughed for about three hours straight. It’s nice to know Asians are starting to feel the love again :3