Interracial Dating Q&A #2: Do Asian Guys Date Girls From (Insert Country)?

I know what you’re thinking: “Another blog post within the same month?”

This actually feels pretty good – writing, that is. In case you didn’t know, I’ve been busy working for the man. Or should I say woman? Woman. Since my hire at Tory Burch, I’ve found my personal time dwindling down to a mere fingernails worth, which is then devoted primarily to “girlfriend time.” Which is no problem for me – of course – but for you readers? Ya’ll gots to wait! But fear not! I come bearing the goods!

So, my little reader, scoop up another bowl of that cheap ice cream you have in the freezer, pop on some fuzzy socks and let’s get to some good ole’ fashioned blog reading! Yay! Reading is fun!

"Mommy, look! I'm reading about Asian guys!"

Question # 1: Do you train kungfu?

Answer: Oh yes! I berry gewd at Kung Fu! Me rikey very much! You want dumpring? I make-a dumpring for sick dorrer fifty! CHING CHONG LING LONG TING TONG! … next question.


Question #2: Hey I read your blog often…..its really good but my question was I live in Columbus and Ive found myself checking out some asian dudes lol but I dont really know if they date east africans………

The whole “Do Asian guys date girls from (insert country)?” question is actually the most common question I get. From girls in Spain to girls in Cuba,ย  girls in East Africa to girls in India, I’ve heard em all. However, it doesn’t matter if you’re from Iran or Neptune, the answer to this question is the same: maybe.

Why maybe? Well, maybe you’re an overly jealous girlfriend with a diva complex, or maybe you’re a swinger who prefers to live her life on the edge [of the bed]. If that’s the case, then no normal guy, whether he’s Asian or not, would wanna date you. The real question is: would ANYONE (with a sensible mind) wanna date you?

Contrary to popular belief, the Asian guys of the world have yet to set up a big conference meeting to create a checklist of what types of girls we will date, and from which countries. We may be intelligent and organized , but not that much.

Now okay, I know this is sounding very PBS and family friendly with my whole “everyone is a winner” type of answer, so here’s the other half: when it comes to dating an Asian guy (or anyone) who was born and or lives in their home country, they will probably be less open minded to dating outside their race.

"Nah man, I don't wanna date that thing!"

The truth of the matter is that, unless you meet someone who was raised in a completely diverse urban city (or someone who is naturally an open minded individual) they’re probably going to date within their own race. If all the women they’ve ever seen in their life were Asian – their friends, ex-girlfriends, and coworkers – how can they really visualize a relationship with anyone else?

I mean think about it this way: you might be an open minded Black/White/Latin girl who is totally diggin Asian guys, but do you honestly think that ALL of the women within your ethnic circle feel the same way? So then why are you asking such a generalized question about us?

"Ahhh-Suh!! You ask-uh such-uh stupid question -suhhhhhhh!!!"

I will say this: a lot of Asian guys are into a lot of types of women. I mean come on! Look at our culture! We’ll eat raw fish, weird Asian candies, we have crazy Anime porn, and we even have some of the wildest fashions on the planet; what makes you think we’re not as adventurous in dating? All I’m saying is that Asian guys have it in them, but some of them just need to know (from you ladies) that you’re interested too.

To many, Asian people are the laughingstock of the world. We talk funny, we eat weird shit, our hair looks like it came out of a Dragonball Z episode, and we look incredibly different. Our culture is different, but inside, we’re still photographers, and dentists, and soon-to-be fathers, and bloggers, and readers – we just need a girl who can make us feel like we aren’t strangers from another galaxy. We want a girl who can accept and appreciate our culture as something that is different – not crazy and wild and reserved for the comic section in the newspaper, just different. If you can unlock that part of your mind, and if you’re willing to see our culture the way we do, then please, welcome to the list of “girls that Asian guys like.”

Question #… AHHH FUCK IT! I’m tired!

12 thoughts on “Interracial Dating Q&A #2: Do Asian Guys Date Girls From (Insert Country)?

  1. are you talking about asian americans? because in that case you’re absolutely right. If, however, you’re talking about asians (as in born and raised in China/korea/japan etc.) then it doesn’t always work like that. I have been told by guys that they wouldn’t date a black girl. Like it or not, there’s a lot of racism here in Asia.
    Also, some for example wouldn’t date girls with a body that is way too far from the beauty ideal they have: a girl with a nice, curvy ‘back’ might look “fat” to a lot of Asians, so a Latino body might not appeal to a lot of them. Same goes for tall girls with broad shoulders, they’re seen as intimidating. Then of course, there’s always exceptions, but it is true that there is some sort of ‘preference’ and that is connected to someone’s race as well.

    Anyways, nice post, i always enjoying reading your blog!


    P.S. btw I am dating a taiwanese guy๐Ÿ˜€

    • That is just a few guys telling you that. I went to visit my friend who is teaching in Korea right now. She is black and has gone on quite a few dates (she is currently dating a korean man) From what I saw and experince in South Korean’s I met and still stay in contact with are very nice.

      The men I met were very nice and had no problem saying that they thought I was pretty. Personal taste is just that, so maybe there are some asian guys that don’t like dateing non-asian women. That does not mean they all do. That is what women should keep in mind…
      another great blog!

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  3. Great points,

    In a race conscious society, people want to predict a race of people. Inappropriate as it is, they get trapped into doing it to the point that we see everybody as the same people.

    You look outside, depending on where you live, diversity is all around us..but to a point in some cases. You may see different races of people and even lots of mixed couples,but not the one the person may have in mind. Where I live, I’m always coming across mixed raced couples,in this case they have been and still is BM/WW ,WM/AW, LM/BW, BM/AW ans WM/BW,but I haven’t seen too many AMBW’s ,AM/WW’s for that matter,but if I were to divide it again, I would say that I’ve seen a little more AM/WW than AM/BW.

    To some, seeing is believing… It doesn’t seem like it because they don’t see it,but I agree with you..people cannot judge the feelings of a whole race of people,by what a couple of people think about them.I remembered being a little shocked at a couple of Asian guys that asked me out and a White Jewish professor that liked me.( course, I didn’t go out with him because of ethics) All I thought about was how things looked and about those stupid stats I read in a book about what races of men preferred what with skinner/full figured women. I’m full figured. I didn’t think that Asian men liked big boned women like myself. Then again, it’s not that has preferences, it’s the individual that may have them. I knew an Indian guy who loved some darker skinned Black women and a Japanese boy had a four year relationship with a Black girl.

    Yes, there will be guys who will love women from their own race. Yes, it may appear that that way since most people are married/dating people within their own inner circle,but there are some people who do want to date/marry Black and other races of women and may we may not know it. No two people think alike.

  4. Funny…A chance of me getting with a asian is slim to none.Especially since im black and I live in america AND i live n georgia.Asian me check me out.One even flirted with me.But i think im done.Im about to go to college and my mind will be on my work only!

  5. Hey Rainer! It’s good to see you back!

    Ever since I started reading your posts from why Asian men make the perfect boyfriends (I agree with you on each count!), I’ve been hooked. Your writing is to-notch, and you really know how to keep people focused.^^

    Congrats on getting a girlfriend! You definitely deserve her–I bet she’s a keeper~

    Thank you for publishing these Q&A’s for us! Lord knoows that people like me could really use it. ^^

  6. “I berry gewd at Kung Fu! Me rikey very much! You want dumpring? I make-a dumpring for sick dorrer fifty! CHING CHONG LING LONG TING TONG!”

    For some reason, reading your blog where you wrote your Kung Fu culinary skills reminds me of my favourite cooking show “Yan Can Cook”, which I used to watch on TV a number of years ago. Thanks for bringing back fond memories.๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Read your Facebook post requesting ideas for the blog. I wanted to contribute with – A comparison on the definition of love among different generations of immigrant Asians.

  8. I am a white woman in a serious relationship with a Korean guy so I get a lot of questions about whether Korean men will date girls from _____ country.
    I think any nice person will only care if their partner is nice and not care which ethnicity their are. The real questions is: How many nice people are out there?๐Ÿ™‚

    Actually, we even started a blog just to answer questions like that. We think it is important to speak up and say that relationships between Asian males and non-Asian females can be just as rewarding and fun like any other.

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