In a weird way, sex is a lot like Interracial Dating: everyone does it but not a lot of people openly discuss their preferences. In the same way that you won’t barge into work and proclaim to your coworkers “I LOVE handjobs!” you also can’t start a conversation with “I LOVE Punjabs!” But interracial dating is tough – or so it seems. We are too often lead to believe that dating outside our native culture is troublesome and will surely lead to an unexpected pregnancy – or at least a broken heart.
“I went black and I’m NEVER going back!”
In my life I’ve had the luxury of meeting various girls of various backgrounds: North Indians, Mexicans, Punjabis, South Koreans, French, Canadians, Japanese, Iraqis, and any others that you can think of. But among the girls that I’ve had an romantic interest for, I’ve come to the conclusion that although interracial dating is tough, dating an Asian guy isn’t.
Could it be? Could it be that Asian guys are the perfectly balanced boyfriend of your dreams? Could it be that our culture mixed with ANY culture will result in ETERNAL happiness and good fortune? Well I’m not sure about ANY culture (Eskimos? Not sure yet…) but I have a very strong feeling that we’re getting there. The modern Asian man is probably one of the most diverse, open minded, and well balanced feller you’ll ever meet. Not sure if you’ll like one? Here’s the guide:
“Read this blog, it’s my favorite!” – Bruce Lee
Asian guys dating Black girls
Many people have the belief that because some Black girls may be too aggressive, a relationship with an Asian man will only result in a squashed banana. Ummm…are you KIDDING me? Too aggressive? Do you realize we’re raised by older ASIAN WOMEN?! Older Asian women are the most vicious, cut throat people in the world. They will cut you off in heavy traffic, deny your refund (even if you have the receipt signed by the president), and if you don’t eat your vegetables they will punish you by making you drink tobasco sauce (yes, that really happened to me.)
So to say that Black women will overpower Asian men is a false statement! We can handle you, and anything you may throw at us – be it a slipper, the remote control, or tobasco sauce. To link back to the past, Asians and Blacks in America have both gone through poverty at some point in time. Both of us have lived through cramped houses, shared beds, and food stamps (my family included). So in terms of family values, both of our cultures know the importance of hard work, saving money, and keeping close to your family.
Several years back, when my older brother was dating a black girl, he came out of his room and approached me with his hand at my shoulder and said “Dude, I’m telling you: marry a black girl. When they love you, they love you. They know how to treat a man.” Since then I’ve been wondering about what it might be like to date a black girl myself, and what the hell he was doing with that hand before he touched me.
In the perspective of love, Asian men are similar to Black women. You see, there are billions of Asians out there (literally) and to us, true love is true happiness. I mean sure, we’d like to get an A on our Anthropology midterm but meeting the right girl is where our true happiness resides. When an Asian man finds a woman, he worships the ground she walks on. She is the thread binding his soul together and with that, with both the Black woman and Asian man madly in love, who can’t deny the fact that eternal happiness is possible?
“But…but Ranier! I’m a Black woman and I occasionally like listening to underground hip hop, and I also enjoy dancing! How will my Asian man EVER keep up with me!? All he does is listen to techno!” If that’s what you’re worried about please take a look at the show America’s Best Dance Crew (ABDC) and look at the winners: Quest Crew, Jabbawockeez, Super Cr3w, We Are Heroes, and Poreotix. From all of the 5 seasons, 4 of them were Asian groups.
Asians are winning all the dancing competitions, we compete in B-boy battles, freestyle, we can all sing, play an instrument, or beatbox. We’re just as musical and talented as you are. Still worried? Look at how beautiful our kids will look like!
How your kids will look like:
Asian guys dating White girls
The Asian male and White female (AM/WF) couple have been the poster boys/girls for interracial dating – and for good reasons. Now I’m not trying to knock off White Male/Asian Female (WM/AF) couples but in the case of AM/WF, there’s a beauty that exists between the two. Unlike WM/AF couples, which too often include a White male with an Asian fetish, the relationship between an AM/WF is completely balanced. No fetishes, no objectification.
Between the Asian male and White female there’s a sense of equality in power. No specific gender wears the pants [permanently] and there’s a divine sense of understanding. From my experience, 100% of the White girls that I know who are interested in Asian guys are ALL highly cultured, open minded, beautiful, and intelligent women. Some have traveled the world while others possess the intellect to crush Professor Xavier (X-men). (ex: Zoe Blue)
Why yes! Miss Universe 2005, Natalie Glebova, is married to an Asian man. WOO!
These adventurous and cultured women have seen life in its fullest and have carried that mentality towards dating. Why would she date a regular guy from town when there’s a hunky, cultured Asian man right next to her?! You see, Asian American men are born cultured. Fortunately for us, all of our parents believe in preserving some of the traditions from “back home”. From the foods we eat to the way we handle marriage and children, there’s always a sense of Asian culture in an Asian man. Most importantly, Asian men are knowledgeable about other Asian cultures. If you meet a Chinese man, chances are he knows everything about Korean cuisine and he also listens to Japanese music.
So when Sally Johnson (who traveled to India, Thailand, and China) meets Peter Leung (who has lived in California all his life) the two of them have good chemistry. Sally senses Peter’s culture and Peter recognizes her open mindedness and intelligence. The two are psychologically perfect for each other and their passion for culture and adventure will keep them together, traveling the world, eating good food, and having great sex.
Vera Farmiga in “Never forever”
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Asian guys dating Latin girls
Ahh…the Latina: Her beauty is so unmeasurable that not even our Ti-89 Titanium edition calculators can explain it. I live in the East Side of San Jose which means you are either one of two things: Asian or Latin. Sure there are sprinkles of whites and blacks here and there but it’s pretty much 4o% Asian, 40% Latin, and 20% “What are you?”
For some odd reason I’ve noticed that as I flip through my mental black book of girls I’ve liked, the best ones (the ones who I had the best chemistry with) were ALL Latina. My first girlfriend in 6th grade was Latina, and so was my second. Latinas and Asians have one MAJOR priority that matches perfectly with each other: the importance we place on family.
A father at his daughter’s Quinceanera
BOYYY I’ll tell ya! Asians have big families. We have family back in the Philippines, Vietnam, China, and every major city in America. Similarly, Latina’s have ENORMOUS families as well. Have you seen a picture from a Latina’s Quinciañera? If you were to TRY to fit all of her family in one picture, you’d have to get one of those cameras they use to take the senior High School class picture. Bottom line: we have huge families which means we’re very affectionate and caring people.
So when Elena Hernando calls her boyfriend Brandon Manlangit (Filipino last name fyi) to cancel their dinner plans because of a sudden family dinner she has to attend, Brandon will understand, because Brandon shares the same values. Brandon won’t get mad and Elena will have a good time with her family knowing that canceling her date with Brandon was easier than she thought. They get each other.
Lastly, I personally think the chemistry between Latin girls and Asian guys works incredibly well. Generally speaking, Latin women are often more laid back than Latin men. Similarly, Asian men are more laid back than Asian women. Which means naturally, the two relaxed people make for a great couple. Both the Latin girl and the Asian guy enjoy having fun, laughing all the time, and basking in each others simple yet fun charisma. It’s a relationship that never gets boring and ensures that every kiss is just as perfect as the first.
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What does this all mean?
White men have always been seen as the default in interracial dating. It’s as if society’s general understanding of Interracial dating = colored women dating white guys. But it doesn’t have to be that way! If you’re a Black women you can date a Punjabi! If you’re a White woman you can date a Native American! If you’re a Latina you can date a Kenyan! You have options! You have choices! Life isn’t McDonalds where you only have Vanilla soft serve – HELL NO! You’re at an ice cream shop on steroids! This is Baskin Robins 5000 flavors!!!
I don’t want people in society to keep thinking that Interracial dating is a white centric thing. I want you guys to try ALL of the ethnicities under the cancer inducing sun! But remember: if you want a man who is cultured, who understands what you’ve been through, who will worship the ground you walk on, who will be the father of your childen, who will laugh with you, who will understand your need to be with family… try dating an Asian man – we’re AWESOME!
“High five for being Awesome!”